Are you a single mother who have relationship with Pakistani man?
and you are here to know about your status in Pakistan Society to find out
"Is it still possible to you to marry your Pakistani man?"
Talking about the widow status in Pakistan, we should look back to traditional Indian culture. Being a widow in traditional India culture is a bad luck, they are the outcast in their society, even many children in India also threw them away. Fortunately, in modern Pakistani society, the widows don't need to live alone in seclusion or have to kill themselves to follow their husbands death. According to Pakistani law which follows sharia law ( Islamic Law ); the widows can inherit the husband's wealth, and the government also encourages them to re-married again.
"However, Pakistani society still thinks that
the widow shouldn't re-married again."
Consequently, in Pakistan, a lot of Pakistani widows don't re-married again especially in small city and rural area. Many people in Pakistan think that if the widow re-married again then she is not a devoted wife. The life will be so tough in Pakistan for the widows, but still so many widows in Pakistan prefer being a widow.
Pakistani widow in Karachi, Pakistan. image: blogs.tribune.pk
"Divorce is taboo in Pakistan,
although some modern Pakistani women took a divorce."
In Pakistani culture, the wives should keep the marriage no matter the marriage life is hard for them. Pakistani society also thinks the divorced lady is a not a good woman because she couldn't keep her previous marriage. For most of Pakistani families, the widow and divorced women are not good candidates to marry their sons, specially if the son is a young single man. Most Pakistani families will not accept the kids of the woman from the previous marriage too ( step children ), so if you are a single mother and want to marry a Pakistani man, you have to make sure the Pakistani man and his family members can accept your status and children completely. The reputation and status are so important in India and Pakistan. Therefore, if you are a single beautiful young lady but your mother already married 3 or 4 times, then mostly the Pakistani family will have problem with it. The people will say: "Oh God! Her mother already married 3 times. What will the daughter do in her marriage life? like father like son, like mother like daughter."
If the widow or divorced lady still get married to the son, sometimes her past status can be used by Pakistani family members to humiliate her whenever they have a fight or any issue with her. According to this, it's quite risky for the ladies, if you were married before with kids but your Pakistani man never get married before. Normally, The family will not agree when the unmarried son will marry a single mother. If they agree and give permission easily without a very deep second thought mostly because they want something from the single mother either visa or money. There are also some cases, when the single mother married to a single Paksitani man but the woman doesn’t bring her child to live with her new husband and family, furthermore many Pakistani families also prefer hiding the real status of the divorced/widow daughter in law from the society to keep their family reputation. Only a modern Pakistani family who is very open minded can accept a divorced or widow to marry their son who never married before.
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