I'm European and I met my ex Pakistani BF in Europe, he was a master student. He was very sweet and romantic guy, I thought he was my soulmate and I never met a guy like that in my life. He was so different from other men whom I knew. And I was so happy to have him.
We were in relationship for more than 3 years and we decided to live together. In short, I got pregnant. I didn't mind to have a baby with a person whom I loved, and I was really sure he really loved me and he even said to me that he couldn't live without me.
But his reaction was not what I expected, he was so depressed, upset and angry at me even asked me to abort the baby. In the beginning, he even neglected It was his baby because he said I was a white woman and I was not a virgin, I have slept with any men and that baby maybe was not his.
What he said to me really broke my heart apart, I told him that I only live with him so it's impossible that I have another man, and I didn't mind if he want to do DNA test to prove the baby is his own baby. He didn't care with what I said and he insisted, he didn't accept the baby and asked me to do abortion.
He even tried to find abortion service online and asked me to book appointment. I kept asking him the reason why he couldn't accept our baby, and he said he was not ready, he came to Europe for study and a wedlock child was a huge disgrace in Pakistan. The family and society would not accept it. He couldn't tell his parents about this.
He made me feel guilty about my pregnancy, although It wasn't may fault but at that time I felt so guilty. Everything he said to me, made him as a victim and I was the one who was responsible with all of this mess. So I agreed to abort my baby.
We still lived together after the abortion and everything back to normal, the way he acted like nothing happened, but it was really hard for me to know that I killed my own child. When I remembered about it, it made me depressed but he always assured me that it was the right thing to do.
I was so stupid and blind by his love. He was so nice to me, always said nice words, always be on my side anytime I needed him, he was so caring and full of affection. I thought he was so sincere and his love to me was pure. But all my trusts to him gone when I found out that he got married in Pakistan. I sacrificed many things to him but to see what he did to me just like an evil. He begged me so I wanted to come back to him, he even said that I could be his second wife, and this made me really sick!
I really loved him so much, and I couldn't live without him but to know that he slept with another woman in Pakistan and even had plan to have a baby with her really hurt me deeply. He asked me to abort our baby but he was trying to have a baby with another woman.
I wrote my story here, so all of you can learn from my story. Don't trust these men blindly, yes they are really sweet even you will feel that you never meet a guy like this before. But all fake! you never know if he is truly love you or not. And having a baby with this man before marriage is a very very big mistake! you shouldn't ever thing to live with this man together in one roof and sacrifice many things before he marries you.
I also met another girl at my therapy program, and she also had same experience as me. She met a Pakistani man, she got pregnant outside the marriage and this man left her. She didn't kill her own baby, but after she delivered, she gave her baby for adoption.
Agree with you! we should not trust them easily! there are good men and not all men are same it's true, but we should remember many bad men too out there! and for Pakistani man, it's really hard to find the good one!