Being a Pakistani daughter

Hello All,

I want to share my experience being a daughter of Pakistani. My father is Pakistani and my mom is British.

My mom told me they married by love.

My parents live in monogamous marriage but I know it's not easy for my mother.

As a child who grew up in UK, I feel my father is too dominant. My mother compromises a lot. I still remember, when I was younger. My father scholed my mom with nasty name whenever they had arguments. Most of the time, they would arguee about rising the children.

My mom wants her children to be independent and can do whatever we want while my father wants to encourage his children in conservative way.

My elder sister fell in love with Non Muslim Man, when my father got to know about this, he was so angry and he blamed my mother because she couldn't teach her children properly. My sister ran away from the house and she married that non Muskim British man. All of my Pakistani family, my uncles, and aunties were shocked and they also blamed my mom. They kept saying, it was my father fault because he married a white woman. If my fathe married to Pakistani, this thing would not happen.

I don't hate my father. He is a nice father but if I were my mom, I think I would not marry him. Although, my root is Pakistani, I never think marrying a Pakistani man is a good option.